Tag Archives: sex

Going Cowgirl

27 Dec

I used to not like being on top during sex.  I just didn’t seem to get as much pleasure from it as I did from other positions.  It also felt a little awkward–I didn’t know how to do it, how to move, whether to lean forward or back, whether my partner got enough pleasure if I wasn’t pumping up and down in a way that approximated his thrusting while we were in a position with him on top.  Also, I’m not exactly a small woman and I’d sometimes be self-conscious about that.  So I sometimes avoided sex with me on top and went for other positions that allowed me to relax a bit more. Continue reading

Simple Ways to Add a Bit of Spice

4 Nov

This post uses one naughty word; consider yourself warned.

Here’s a suggestion: get a mirror, a nice big one, and hang it beside your bed.  Why?  Because it is damn hot to watch your partner and yourself in the middle of sex.  I discovered this by accident because MM rearranged some furniture and ended up leaning a mirror against the wall next to his bed to get it out of the way.  I didn’t really pay any attention at first, but the second or third time I was at his house, in his bed, I caught a glimpse of us in that mirror, naked, thrusting.  And it sent my temperature way up.  Now when I think of that mirror and us fucking in the bed next to it, it’s all I can do to not drop everything and head to his place for a little afternoon delight.

And you?  Have you found simple things that have (unexpectedly or not) ramped up the heat of your sexual encounters?

 

some of my favorite positions

18 Jul

(Yep, another post about sex positions.  I haven’t included diagrams in the post this time, just links, so you can click ‘read more’ here without seeing any Not Safe For Work imagery.)

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the elusive “O”

7 Jul

So, as part of my little rant the other day (btw, I am feeling much better now, thanks) I mentioned having sex but not climaxing and how frustrating that was. Actually my exact words were:

“I take that back, we had sex once but I wasn’t able to come.  Close… but not all the way.  Which is worse, imho, than none at all.”

Anon asked a very important question pertaining to that statement, and I’d LOVE the chance to discuss this.  She queried:

“…obviously we hear all the time about how great orgasms are and even the OP mentioned that sex without an orgasm is worse than no sex at all, so I was wondering is there ANY redeeming value to sex without an orgasm? Can’t it still be nice and create a closeness?…” Continue reading

stressed out and sexless. (Yes, I’m pouting)

6 Jul

So our little family just went through a rather stressful move and we are barely now starting to feel a bit more settled in, finding our new rhythms, adjusting…

But sex hasn’t come back yet. >:{ Continue reading

“..Virginity isn’t even real..” The Musical.

9 Jun

Because C made a really insightful comment about virginity on Fanny’s post Know Your Body.

And because Sylvia has recently asked What the role of Religion is in our Sexuality

A little song for you.  Warning: it has the “F” word.  Oh, and the “BS” word.

Full lyrics posted here on Feministing.  But here’s a sample:

“…I’m not a virgin
Because virginity isn’t even real
Not a virgin
It’s just a heteropatriarchal construct
Designed to police how you feel….”

 

So, what do you like about it, what do you hate about it?