Tag Archives: body acceptance

what sexy *looks* like

9 Jul

Had a thought today, inspired in part by both my recent feelings of unsexy-ness and by Patty B’s insightful comment about Amanda Palmer’s Map of Tasmania music vid.  That thought was “what does sexy *look* like to me/you”?

A while back I read Female Chauvinist Pigs by  Ariel Levy. A fascinating critique of the rise of raunch culture, I highly sugggest it.  More about it here and here.  But here’s the excerpt I am thinking of:

“Raunch culture is not about opening our minds to the possibilities and mysteries of sexuality. It’s about endlessly reiterating one particular- and particularly commercial- shorthand for sexiness.”

“If we were to acknowledge that sexuality is personal and unique, it would become unwieldily. Making sexiness into something quantifiable makes it easier to market… big boobs, bleached blond hair, long nails, poles, thongs… you can sell it. Suddenly sex requires shopping; you need plastic surgery, peroxide, a manicure, a mall.”

It makes me question what it takes to make me feel “sexy”. Continue reading

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Body Parts

17 Jun

Since Lucinda gave the heads up about the modesty convo going on over at New Cool Thang, I have decided I simply MUST share this absolutely FABULOUS blog post written by Kristina, about Body Image, Marriage, Nudity, and Sexuality.  About nudist beaches and fearing a boudoir photography session.  About aging and how our bodies change over time.  About how we judge other’s bodies, and about intimacy with the ones we love.  Continue reading