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Let’s Talk About {Oral} Sex…

22 Oct

One of the unexpected things about this blog has been the new information that has rolled our way, and one theme that keeps popping up in conversations and emails is that of oral sex. All of us sister-wives here at MMP decided to sit down and have a conversation about this, and see where it went. Remember, we are all real women, with real lives and are all LDS in one way or another. For the purposes of this post, to allow ourselves an extra degree of frankness, we’ve used colors instead of our sister-wives names- but rest assured, it’s all us.

This is an honest post about how we feel and think about oral sex, and some tips for some for our sisters who might be squeamish or otherwise afraid to give it a go. Please join in the discussion in the comments- we’d love to hear from some men as well. There are no images with this post, but after the jump, there is frank, honest discussion. Consider yourself warned. Continue reading

Nakedness is Happiness

12 Aug

We welcome another guest post and male point-of-view from MMP reader and fan, O. Porter Rockwell.

Sisters, I rise once again to broach another sensitive subject that some may find perhaps a bit taboo.

It’s about your wardrobe. Now I dare not speak of colors, styles, or size. There are far more knowledgable people who can counsel you on such details. I wish to discuss but one aspect of your wardrobe: Quantity.

I’ll just say it: You’re overdressed. Yes, you. Continue reading

Guest Post: Vaginismus

20 Jul

This is a guest-post from a reader of MMP addressing the not-uncommon but not-often discussed subject of Vaginismus. We hope you find it as informative and thoughtful as we did. ~The MMP Sister Wives

I grew up in the church, had my first boyfriend at age 21, and married at age 26.  I guess you could say I was a “late bloomer,” but I was well educated about sex by the time I got married.  I was forced to educate myself because I had been diagnosed with something called vaginismus, a condition which causes painful intercourse.  Though this condition is not terribly rare, I found that few people understood it and few resources about sex even mentioned it–often, when it WAS mentioned, it perpetuated unfair stereotypes about the women who suffer from it.  It was very isolating, but having a name for what I was going through was also liberating and comforting.  Continue reading

Is there Virtue in Infidelity?

4 Jul

It’s the 4th of July- let’s have some fireworks, shall we?

I just finished reading this New York Times pieces on Dan Savage and what he considers the virtues of infidelity.  Now, pick your jaws up off the ground, and actually read the piece before you get your torches and pitchforks. Dan Savage is the mastermind behind the “It Gets Better” project, a brilliant writer on his own, and America’s leading sex-advice columnist. Now before we discuss this any further, I insist you actually go read the piece. No reactionary mobbing. Go on… Go!

NYT Magazine: Married, with Infidelities

Did you read it? I know it’s a little bit long, but I found it fascinating. Savage is actually quite conservative and is a proponent of preserving the family- if you didn’t know he was gay, you might occasionally mistake some of his columns as being a conservative pundit. Where Savage is thinking outside the box is in proposing that physical fidelity not be the be-all and end-all lynchpin of what might otherwise be a successful relationship. And oh yes, that certainly does open up a Pandora’s Box of questions… Continue reading

Lingerie: Yes You Should!

1 Jul

I just got finished cleaning out and organizing my lingerie drawer. Well, actually, I have three drawers of lingerie- one for my bras, one for undies/garters and one for babydolls/stockings. Plus, I have a drawer for my garments- which in no way qualify as lingerie, but are worn daily nonetheless. While I freely admit I have a thing for lingerie- I know not everyone is so comfortable. As LDS women, we have something of a complicated relationship with our undies- if we’ve been through the temple, our regular undergarments are religious garments and imbued with meaning. We wear them, no pun intended, religiously.  Continue reading

Masturbation 101

21 Jun

My  sister-wife Eliza wrote a post about masturbation and sex toys, and as I read it and the comments that followed, it dawned on me that stepping back and giving some basic information might be helpful to some sisters. Our levels of comfort with these things vary widely, and while some of us might be perfectly comfortable talking about sex toys, some of us might be quite intimidated  and not be sure what, really, masturbation or a sex toy even is, other than something to talk about in hushed whispers, if at all. Continue reading

slut shaming

19 Jun

“Ultimately, it is easier to slut-shame young women by telling them that their clothes are too sexy than to tackle cultural violence at its root.”
Laurie Penny

Because both Ameila and BethSmash made very insightful comments in response to the New Cool Thang post on modesty, I’d like to share a few excerpts here from a very insightful Guardian Article regarding Slut Shaming:   Continue reading