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Going Cowgirl

27 Dec

I used to not like being on top during sex.  I just didn’t seem to get as much pleasure from it as I did from other positions.  It also felt a little awkward–I didn’t know how to do it, how to move, whether to lean forward or back, whether my partner got enough pleasure if I wasn’t pumping up and down in a way that approximated his thrusting while we were in a position with him on top.  Also, I’m not exactly a small woman and I’d sometimes be self-conscious about that.  So I sometimes avoided sex with me on top and went for other positions that allowed me to relax a bit more. Continue reading

Are young Mormons still “waiting” for marriage?

16 Nov

While browsing around the web tonight (as I am wont to do), I stumbled across this an article about why young Christians aren’t waiting for sex anymore at CNN’s Belief Blog.  And it got me wondering whether young Mormons are still waiting.  In brief the blog post makes the following points: Continue reading

Simple Ways to Add a Bit of Spice

4 Nov

This post uses one naughty word; consider yourself warned.

Here’s a suggestion: get a mirror, a nice big one, and hang it beside your bed.  Why?  Because it is damn hot to watch your partner and yourself in the middle of sex.  I discovered this by accident because MM rearranged some furniture and ended up leaning a mirror against the wall next to his bed to get it out of the way.  I didn’t really pay any attention at first, but the second or third time I was at his house, in his bed, I caught a glimpse of us in that mirror, naked, thrusting.  And it sent my temperature way up.  Now when I think of that mirror and us fucking in the bed next to it, it’s all I can do to not drop everything and head to his place for a little afternoon delight.

And you?  Have you found simple things that have (unexpectedly or not) ramped up the heat of your sexual encounters?

 

You forgot something, right?

24 Oct

Yesterday in Relief Society the lesson was on strengthening marriage. There were 10 bullet points, each on a slip of paper handed out before class to be read by a different sister. You know what I mean.

Not one about sex. Not even referenced by a euphemism.

Not. One.

Let’s Talk About {Oral} Sex…

22 Oct

One of the unexpected things about this blog has been the new information that has rolled our way, and one theme that keeps popping up in conversations and emails is that of oral sex. All of us sister-wives here at MMP decided to sit down and have a conversation about this, and see where it went. Remember, we are all real women, with real lives and are all LDS in one way or another. For the purposes of this post, to allow ourselves an extra degree of frankness, we’ve used colors instead of our sister-wives names- but rest assured, it’s all us.

This is an honest post about how we feel and think about oral sex, and some tips for some for our sisters who might be squeamish or otherwise afraid to give it a go. Please join in the discussion in the comments- we’d love to hear from some men as well. There are no images with this post, but after the jump, there is frank, honest discussion. Consider yourself warned. Continue reading

Doing it Daily

10 Oct

There was an interesting conversation on another thread here, about having daily sex. While I like frequent sex, I had never really considered making something a goal, myself.  Gavin was the one who shared a link about Charla Muller’s gift to her husband on his 4oth birthday:  To have sex with him every day for a year!!

A few excerpts:

“…disappointingly for Charla, the mother of two young children, even Brad thought the idea was a bit, well, unrealistic. She had been expecting whoops of delight and much punching of the ceiling when she told him of his gift. Instead, she got sheer bafflement.   Then, to my horror, he declined the whole thing, saying that he didn’t want me to feel that I had to have sex with him – like it was some sort of duty,’ says Charla. ‘He actually walked away from me, saying we would discuss it later. I was quite deflated….  She eventually convinced the skeptical Brad that her offer was bona fide, and in July 2006 they embarked on what she would eventually dub the Dance Of The Daily Deed….”

“…Charla is the most unlikely sex guru. Church-going and cookie-baking, she exudes wholesomeness. Physically, she admits to being ‘sturdily built’ and is on the wrong side of 40. I’m hardly a sex kitten,’ she says. ‘But then, how many people are? That is the point….”

“…We did have to sit down with the wall planner going: “Well, we have that PTA meeting on Wednesday and you are away for business on Thursday, so we’ll have to have sex on Monday evening and Tuesday morning. Brad was appalled at first. His view of sex was that it had to be spontaneous and of the moment.  I always thought that was rubbish. How can it be spontaneous in the middle of family life? So we had to compromise a bit. As it went on, I scheduled it, but tried not to make him aware of how much I was scheduling it…”

“The sex itself wasn’t a disaster and didn’t become jaded because of the frequency.  Far from it,’ says Charla. ‘Because we were having sex so often, it actually took the pressure off, which was really liberating.'”

“My self-confidence was greatly improved, too. I’d always been one of those women who told herself she would want sex more if she just lost 10lb and felt a bit more sexy. Now, I realize feeling sexy isn’t about being thin or gorgeous. My husband desired me as I was – it was just a case of accepting that….”

Anyhow, I am curious. I know at least a few of you have tried this, how is it going? Meanwhile, what is your take on the frequency of sex. Daily is obviously not everyone’s norm… what works for you? How have your own sexual routines settled (ie, do you have “that night of the week” or what?)

I encourage any of you who have MORE to say on the subject to please submit a guest post to mormonmissionaryposition@gmail.com

meanwhile… yah. another Flight of the Concords music video. How Can I resist?

if that’s what you’re into….

4 Oct

I give you, Flight of the Concords, If You’re into it:

That’s one way to test the waters of sexual experimentation.

This song just popped up on my shuffle and it reminded me of the exceptional recent guest post by KaralynZ.

Sometimes it’s not just initiating sex… sometimes it’s… wanting to try out a particular method/game/toy/etc that you want to approach your partner about… but really aren’t sure how to with out feeling embarrassed/vulnerable etc.

For example, it took us a good couple of years of marriage before we had oral sex.  It was just one of those things we were both a bit to embarrassed to broach the other about. Eventually, I just got up the nerve to go there during foreplay… but I was pretty nervous about it.

Maybe I should have written up a little ditty and sung it to him first. 🙂

Anyhow… how have you gone about finding out if your partner would be willing to try XYZ (or whatever)?