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“Can You Love Two Men at Once?”

13 Mar

That is the title of this Huffington post article, by Iris Krasnow (who wrote the book, as they say.)

It’s a subject close to my heart. I have “men friends” and, at times, the friendship has been very close. I have never been sexual with another man, but I have been flirty. And I have been very very emotionally attached. I’m not going to go into that right now. Instead, I’ll share a few excerpts from the article, while I process it a bit.

“The chapter on flirty friendships in my book “The Secret Lives of Wives” has prompted a deluge of mail from wives who swear by their boyfriends-with-boundaries, men they love in their hearts and not with their loins. These flirtations can spice up the gray corridors of a long marriage. Feeling sexually and cerebrally charged by others beyond a primary relationship is a natural response of the human animal. And when kept within limits, who can deny that it feels good?

Men we aren’t married to find us smart and extraordinary because they don’t live with us in the grind of ordinary life, with kids, mortgages and sinks strewn with toothpaste and their newly shaved facial hair. In old boyfriends, we find our lost youth; in new men friends, we get the endorphin rush of being on a first date. The trouble starts when sexual crackle between two people who aren’t married to each other erupts into a roaring bonfire love, an urgent attraction that is both dangerous and delicious.”

And this, her concluding thought:

“Fantasy is too often better than reality. A new boyfriend becomes an old boyfriend who probably shakes gross facial hair off his razor into the sink like that yucky husband of yours does. Holding a flirtation at arms length allows you to sustain the alluring mystery.”

Thoughts?

Let’s Talk About {Oral} Sex…

22 Oct

One of the unexpected things about this blog has been the new information that has rolled our way, and one theme that keeps popping up in conversations and emails is that of oral sex. All of us sister-wives here at MMP decided to sit down and have a conversation about this, and see where it went. Remember, we are all real women, with real lives and are all LDS in one way or another. For the purposes of this post, to allow ourselves an extra degree of frankness, we’ve used colors instead of our sister-wives names- but rest assured, it’s all us.

This is an honest post about how we feel and think about oral sex, and some tips for some for our sisters who might be squeamish or otherwise afraid to give it a go. Please join in the discussion in the comments- we’d love to hear from some men as well. There are no images with this post, but after the jump, there is frank, honest discussion. Consider yourself warned. Continue reading

This is not porn.

18 Aug

It is educational.

But it is about penises and it’s NSFW.

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Nakedness is Happiness

12 Aug

We welcome another guest post and male point-of-view from MMP reader and fan, O. Porter Rockwell.

Sisters, I rise once again to broach another sensitive subject that some may find perhaps a bit taboo.

It’s about your wardrobe. Now I dare not speak of colors, styles, or size. There are far more knowledgable people who can counsel you on such details. I wish to discuss but one aspect of your wardrobe: Quantity.

I’ll just say it: You’re overdressed. Yes, you. Continue reading

Guest Post: A Guy’s List

13 Jul

This is a guest-post from male reader and fan, O. Porter Rockwell.

Let me first say that I’ve taken really good notes on the posts written by the MMP Sister Wives. I’m not afraid to say that I’ve been enlightened and edified- so when Fannie answered my half joking inquiry on who was going to provide a male viewpoint I was a bit taken aback when she said “why not you?”

By way of introduction I’ll lay out my bona-fides: I’m about as Mormon as a guy can get – baptized at 8, Eagle Scout at 15, returned missionary, BYU grad, temple marriage with an undisclosed number of children.

And yes, if you really must know (and given the subject of this blog I guess you do) both my bride and I were blushing virgins on our wedding night. Continue reading

Know His Body: The Penis

7 Jul

Okay, ladies. I wrote about knowing our parts here. It’s time we get to know his- and while the whole body is an erogenous zone, for the sake of this post, I’m just giving a primer on the penis. Remember, a healthy sexual appetite is a natural and beautiful thing. There is no reason to be embarrassed, and there is certainly no excuse for being ignorant. Sex is about not only the uniting of our spirits, but the uniting of our bodies- and if you’re afraid to touch, look at or really know the intimate parts of your lover, you’re missing out.

From conversations I’ve had around my kitchen table, it surprises me how many heterosexual women lack curiosity about the penis. My more conservative, shy friends would blush and say nothing, while my more forward friends might make a crack about how funny looking or even ugly they are. Some women don’t even want to look at a penis. It’s time to stop, ladies. Continue reading

Is there Virtue in Infidelity?

4 Jul

It’s the 4th of July- let’s have some fireworks, shall we?

I just finished reading this New York Times pieces on Dan Savage and what he considers the virtues of infidelity.  Now, pick your jaws up off the ground, and actually read the piece before you get your torches and pitchforks. Dan Savage is the mastermind behind the “It Gets Better” project, a brilliant writer on his own, and America’s leading sex-advice columnist. Now before we discuss this any further, I insist you actually go read the piece. No reactionary mobbing. Go on… Go!

NYT Magazine: Married, with Infidelities

Did you read it? I know it’s a little bit long, but I found it fascinating. Savage is actually quite conservative and is a proponent of preserving the family- if you didn’t know he was gay, you might occasionally mistake some of his columns as being a conservative pundit. Where Savage is thinking outside the box is in proposing that physical fidelity not be the be-all and end-all lynchpin of what might otherwise be a successful relationship. And oh yes, that certainly does open up a Pandora’s Box of questions… Continue reading