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Guest Post: Initiating Sex

2 Oct

Commenter and MMP supporter KaralynZ has joined us for a guest post. Please welcome her and add your ideas to answer her questions in the comments.

While reading some of the blogs another poster had linked to, I read a couple of articles by a husband/wife blog team. There were a pair of posts, one by the husband and one by the wife, about “How to ask for more sex/how to offer more sex“. While interesting, I felt they just skimmed this topic and that the people at MMP would have a lot more to say.

Now with my husband and I, our sex drives are better matched than some couples, though not perfect. What I have found is an issue now though was not an issue when we first got married: Asking for sex. Continue reading

Book Review: 101 Nights of Great Sex

27 Sep

So first off, let me start by telling you, this is not an LDS book. This is not a book with euphamisms about magical moments and flowers opening. If you’re squeamish about sex, this book might make you a little uncomfortable. But you should totally buy it anyway- because it’s frankly fantastic. If you’re looking for a way to spice things up, or to introduce some new ideas in what may have become a ho-hum sex repretoire, this is the book for you. Even if you’re not sure if you’re ready to try anything yet- this book is fun, and will give you some ideas that you might not have thought about before.

The book is cleverly put together, with “For Her Eyes Only” and “For His Eyes Only” tear-out pages that are actually sealed, like a report card or bank mailing, with perforated edges. Each sealed page (maybe it is Mormon!) has a code on the front, noting a dollar amount- from free, to a select few over hundred dollars- and whether this sealed page requires travel, props, etc… The pages are numbered, but you are free to skip around and choose one that fits your budget. In flipping through, a great deal of the pages require no money, and only a small handful are in the pricey +$100 category. Continue reading

Guest Post: Vaginismus

20 Jul

This is a guest-post from a reader of MMP addressing the not-uncommon but not-often discussed subject of Vaginismus. We hope you find it as informative and thoughtful as we did. ~The MMP Sister Wives

I grew up in the church, had my first boyfriend at age 21, and married at age 26.  I guess you could say I was a “late bloomer,” but I was well educated about sex by the time I got married.  I was forced to educate myself because I had been diagnosed with something called vaginismus, a condition which causes painful intercourse.  Though this condition is not terribly rare, I found that few people understood it and few resources about sex even mentioned it–often, when it WAS mentioned, it perpetuated unfair stereotypes about the women who suffer from it.  It was very isolating, but having a name for what I was going through was also liberating and comforting.  Continue reading

Guest Post: A Guy’s List

13 Jul

This is a guest-post from male reader and fan, O. Porter Rockwell.

Let me first say that I’ve taken really good notes on the posts written by the MMP Sister Wives. I’m not afraid to say that I’ve been enlightened and edified- so when Fannie answered my half joking inquiry on who was going to provide a male viewpoint I was a bit taken aback when she said “why not you?”

By way of introduction I’ll lay out my bona-fides: I’m about as Mormon as a guy can get – baptized at 8, Eagle Scout at 15, returned missionary, BYU grad, temple marriage with an undisclosed number of children.

And yes, if you really must know (and given the subject of this blog I guess you do) both my bride and I were blushing virgins on our wedding night. Continue reading

Know His Body: The Penis

7 Jul

Okay, ladies. I wrote about knowing our parts here. It’s time we get to know his- and while the whole body is an erogenous zone, for the sake of this post, I’m just giving a primer on the penis. Remember, a healthy sexual appetite is a natural and beautiful thing. There is no reason to be embarrassed, and there is certainly no excuse for being ignorant. Sex is about not only the uniting of our spirits, but the uniting of our bodies- and if you’re afraid to touch, look at or really know the intimate parts of your lover, you’re missing out.

From conversations I’ve had around my kitchen table, it surprises me how many heterosexual women lack curiosity about the penis. My more conservative, shy friends would blush and say nothing, while my more forward friends might make a crack about how funny looking or even ugly they are. Some women don’t even want to look at a penis. It’s time to stop, ladies. Continue reading

Lingerie: Yes You Should!

1 Jul

I just got finished cleaning out and organizing my lingerie drawer. Well, actually, I have three drawers of lingerie- one for my bras, one for undies/garters and one for babydolls/stockings. Plus, I have a drawer for my garments- which in no way qualify as lingerie, but are worn daily nonetheless. While I freely admit I have a thing for lingerie- I know not everyone is so comfortable. As LDS women, we have something of a complicated relationship with our undies- if we’ve been through the temple, our regular undergarments are religious garments and imbued with meaning. We wear them, no pun intended, religiously.  Continue reading

Masturbation 101

21 Jun

My  sister-wife Eliza wrote a post about masturbation and sex toys, and as I read it and the comments that followed, it dawned on me that stepping back and giving some basic information might be helpful to some sisters. Our levels of comfort with these things vary widely, and while some of us might be perfectly comfortable talking about sex toys, some of us might be quite intimidated  and not be sure what, really, masturbation or a sex toy even is, other than something to talk about in hushed whispers, if at all. Continue reading