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Simple Ways to Add a Bit of Spice

4 Nov

This post uses one naughty word; consider yourself warned.

Here’s a suggestion: get a mirror, a nice big one, and hang it beside your bed.  Why?  Because it is damn hot to watch your partner and yourself in the middle of sex.  I discovered this by accident because MM rearranged some furniture and ended up leaning a mirror against the wall next to his bed to get it out of the way.  I didn’t really pay any attention at first, but the second or third time I was at his house, in his bed, I caught a glimpse of us in that mirror, naked, thrusting.  And it sent my temperature way up.  Now when I think of that mirror and us fucking in the bed next to it, it’s all I can do to not drop everything and head to his place for a little afternoon delight.

And you?  Have you found simple things that have (unexpectedly or not) ramped up the heat of your sexual encounters?

 

Let’s Talk About {Oral} Sex…

22 Oct

One of the unexpected things about this blog has been the new information that has rolled our way, and one theme that keeps popping up in conversations and emails is that of oral sex. All of us sister-wives here at MMP decided to sit down and have a conversation about this, and see where it went. Remember, we are all real women, with real lives and are all LDS in one way or another. For the purposes of this post, to allow ourselves an extra degree of frankness, we’ve used colors instead of our sister-wives names- but rest assured, it’s all us.

This is an honest post about how we feel and think about oral sex, and some tips for some for our sisters who might be squeamish or otherwise afraid to give it a go. Please join in the discussion in the comments- we’d love to hear from some men as well. There are no images with this post, but after the jump, there is frank, honest discussion. Consider yourself warned. Continue reading

Keeping the Fire Stoked

9 Sep

We received a very nice letter from a reader who is a former bishop, and I will share part of his email:

…During the time I served as a bishop I found that there is a lot of stress caused by peoples’ misconceptions and lack of knowledge about sex. By providing a safe, comfortable place to discuss sexual topics, you’re helping people look at things in new ways and get new ideas.  I don’t agree with all the advice given in the posts and comments, but I think the vast majority of it is helpful.

…I thought it might be helpful to have a post about how to keep the excitement alive for those who have been married for many years.  That was a challenge for some of the people I’ve counseled with, and I think to some degree it is a challenge for all of us who have been married more than 10 or 15 years.

Thank you, Bishop. While the compliments and point of view are appreciated, let’s have the readers and commenters chime in with answers to the real question: How DO you keep the fire alive after being married 10 or 15 years- and beyond? I’m not qualified to answer this one, as my divorce happened at year 12, so I toss the ball to you all. Let’s hear it, everyone- What do you do?

txt msg <3

13 Aug
txt message love

txt message love

A few things to keep in mind when texting cheesecake pics of yourself to your partner:

~Be very careful you send it to YOUR PARTNER.  Not to the cousin whose name comes right before them in your contacts list, not to the co-worker whose name comes right after them in your contacts list. Continue reading

Nakedness is Happiness

12 Aug

We welcome another guest post and male point-of-view from MMP reader and fan, O. Porter Rockwell.

Sisters, I rise once again to broach another sensitive subject that some may find perhaps a bit taboo.

It’s about your wardrobe. Now I dare not speak of colors, styles, or size. There are far more knowledgable people who can counsel you on such details. I wish to discuss but one aspect of your wardrobe: Quantity.

I’ll just say it: You’re overdressed. Yes, you. Continue reading

Guest Post: Vaginismus

20 Jul

This is a guest-post from a reader of MMP addressing the not-uncommon but not-often discussed subject of Vaginismus. We hope you find it as informative and thoughtful as we did. ~The MMP Sister Wives

I grew up in the church, had my first boyfriend at age 21, and married at age 26.  I guess you could say I was a “late bloomer,” but I was well educated about sex by the time I got married.  I was forced to educate myself because I had been diagnosed with something called vaginismus, a condition which causes painful intercourse.  Though this condition is not terribly rare, I found that few people understood it and few resources about sex even mentioned it–often, when it WAS mentioned, it perpetuated unfair stereotypes about the women who suffer from it.  It was very isolating, but having a name for what I was going through was also liberating and comforting.  Continue reading

Guest Post: A Guy’s List

13 Jul

This is a guest-post from male reader and fan, O. Porter Rockwell.

Let me first say that I’ve taken really good notes on the posts written by the MMP Sister Wives. I’m not afraid to say that I’ve been enlightened and edified- so when Fannie answered my half joking inquiry on who was going to provide a male viewpoint I was a bit taken aback when she said “why not you?”

By way of introduction I’ll lay out my bona-fides: I’m about as Mormon as a guy can get – baptized at 8, Eagle Scout at 15, returned missionary, BYU grad, temple marriage with an undisclosed number of children.

And yes, if you really must know (and given the subject of this blog I guess you do) both my bride and I were blushing virgins on our wedding night. Continue reading