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Don’t Miss: Jacob Baker’s “Discovering Who We Are”

8 Jun

Excerpts from Jacob Baker’s Discovering Who We Are: Sexuality, Temptation, and Talking about Sex and Sexuality. Jacob is a doctoral student in Philosophy of Religion and Theology from Claremont Graduate University.  This address was originally given to the young single adults of the East Los Angeles Stake on November 21, 2010. If you appreciate the quotes, please be sure to read the full article, which is excellent.

How do we talk truthfully about sex and sexuality? The answer to this question is important because it will help decide how we orient ourselves to our sexual natures, and that orientation will determine our sexual behavior. Are you terrified of sexuality? Don’t ever want to go near it or talk about it or learn more about it? Are you obsessed with your sexual nature, not ever seeming able to fulfill it completely, unable to get enough of what you think sex is? Are you promiscuous, never able to stay with just one person (whether you are sexually active or not)? Are you a person who can’t get enough of the sexual power you hold over the opposite sex and thrill to how you can get them to do, think, and say whatever you want with that power? Can you only deal with your sexual nature alone in the bedroom with the door locked, where you are in control and no one but you tells you what to think, say, or do about sexuality?  Is pornography the only real contact or understanding you have of sexuality, the only place you feel safe with sexuality? Or maybe you have a “healthy” orientation toward sexuality and understand it on multiple levels, and have found a peaceful balance of your sexuality with other positive aspects of your life.  If any of this describes you, whether now or in the past, this is in large part due to how you were taught (most of the time indirectly) to talk and think about sex and sexuality. Continue reading