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Thoughts on Virginity #1

5 Jul

I’ll be writing several thoughts on virginity: why we have it, why we have kept it sacred, why it’s such a big deal, how we felt when we “lost” it, how it’s defined, tips on how to lose it if you haven’t yet, and oh, so very much more.

Let’s start at the very beginning. A very good place to start. When you are sexually defined from the very first, you are given that tell-tale label of “virgin”. There has always been the idea of equating the word “pure” with the word “virgin”. There is the ever-pervading idea that a person’s virginity, or loss of it, can profoundly affect that person’s life. Laura Carpenter, author of Virginity Lost: An Intimate Portrait of First Sexual Experiences, said, “I think the emphasis put on virginity, particularly for women, causes a lot more harm than good.”

So, how do you define “virginity?” Let’s take a look at Webster’s definition:

vir⋅gin  [vur-jin]  Show IPA

–noun

1. a person who has never had sexual intercourse.
2. an unmarried girl or woman.
3. Ecclesiastical. an unmarried, religious woman, esp. a saint.
4. the Virgin, Mary, the mother of Christ.
6. A female animal that has never copulated.

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The Big Question

8 Jun

Before I start posting real, in depth posts. I’m curious about one thing. How big of a role should religion play in one’s sexuality? Should a religion be allowed to dictate the ins and outs of my body and what I do with it?

Why or why not.