how beautiful on the mountains. (wanting a teacher)

11 Jun

Heads up, this post is Safe For Work, but references an R rated movie and talks about masturbation as a way of improving partner sex.  Read more at  your own discretion. 

One of my favorite scenes from 40 yr old virgin: “Dude. Teach Me.”   (A SFW bedroom scene but does contain the “F” word and a glimpse of Catherine Keener in underwear. Most of it is (a clothed) Steve Carrell trying to figure out what to do with a condom. Hilarious.)

That last line: “Dude… Teach me.”  Yep, I know the feeling.

So, here is a bit of teaching from Betty Dodson, a sex positive feminist artist and sex educator.  The following are just snippets from her essay Learn To Last Longer During Sex (specifically geared towards men.)  You can find the full content of the essay here, but the website is  NSFW, just a warning.

“…Healthy childhood masturbation is one key to an adult male getting and keeping an erection. If a young boy gets shamed or punished for this basic sexual activity, he’ll grow up with inhibitions. Some might require sex therapy to undo the damage…”

“…When you’re a teen or in your twenties, those masturbation quickies are training you to come fast. This pattern will interfere with your ability to fully enjoy the dance of erotic love when you eventually have sex with a woman. If you are in your forties, those two-minute hand jobs in the morning shower are also training your body to come quickly. So how you masturbate is what you bring to partnersex. Self-stimulation is also the key to training your body to last longer…”

“…Men who want to make partnersex last longer make an effort to learn how to delay ejaculation by training themselves to sustain higher levels of arousal through the practice of masturbation…”

“…This cannot be done while watching porn so your must get away from your computer… These little quickies with porn were more like scratching an itch rather than expressing orgasmic joy. Once I understood the ease of those quickies, I believe porn would make me sexually lazy. Living on Fast Sex would be like eating fast food— neither one would nourish my body, mind or soul…”

” …Conscious masturbation will allow you to get more familiar with your entire arousal process. Try to practice several times a week like an athlete working out or a musician learning to play an instrument…. While masturbating, just before feeling the surge toward ejaculation, stop and press your thumb and finger just under the rim of the glans or head of your penis and/or at the base. The semen travels through the urethral tube that runs up the underside of the penis. Squeezing this tube and relaxing will help to retard ejaculation. After chilling out a moment, you can start stroking again. Repeating this process will allow you to sustain higher levels of sexual arousal… ”

“…The PC muscle or pubococcygeus is a key player in sexual pleasure. It affects a man’s ability to get hard, stay hard and have a full orgasm. This is the muscle that contracts involuntarily during ejaculation. Both women and men can locate this muscle by stopping the flow of urine. The same as women, men need to strengthen their PC muscle by consciously squeezing and releasing it during rounds of repetitions…”

So there you go,  your Sex lesson for the day.  Thank you Betty

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